The Shouty Woman

April 27, 2006


Filed under: Feminism — by Lucy @ 1:12 pm

I feel really low today, partly for personal reasons that I can't go into here but also because the world seems like a pretty depressing place at the moment. The penalty of being a feminist is that you are forced to see things as they really are, not as others might want you to see them. And the way things are for women is not good.

Everywhere I look I see stories of rape, abuse, exploitation and violence. Most of my fellow feminist bloggers have experienced one or all of the above – I seem to be a rarity in having experienced none. What will it take for this to stop? What will it take for people to see what is happening, to see that rape is not about sex but about power, to see that porn is not about sex but about exploitation? People are so blind that it scares me.

Want an example? Read this article, published recently on the BBC website, and look at the comments below it. Mine is there but it's hard to see through all the anti-feminist invective.

Why do I bother even trying to make my voice heard when there are so many other voices telling me that what I feel is wrong? Lighten up, it's only a bit of fun, it's only exercise, what's wrong with 'feeling sexy'? You man-hating feminists should just let normal women get on with their lives.

I should be posting responses to some of those hateful comments, or at least trying to release some anger by tearing into them on my blog. But I just feel like the fight's gone out of me at the moment. I hope it comes back.

On a happier note I hope to go to the protest tomorrow at Southwark Crown Court against reduced sentences for perpetrators of rape and domestic violence. Can't wait to meet some online feminists in the flesh! 



  1. I really hope the protest tomorow gives you some hope – as the blogosphere shows you aren’t alone. A lot of the comments on the BBC site are so imbecilic as to be farcical but there are some gems in there…

    “It’s exercise, is it? So you’ll all be wearing trainers then?
    Jill Arscott, Brighton” !

    Keep going, be patient and don’t let them shout you down.

    Comment by lasomnambule — April 27, 2006 @ 3:43 pm |Reply

  2. Thank you so much, I really appreciate it. I liked the comment about the trainers too – it’s a shame there weren’t more like it.

    I’m really looking forward to the protest tomorrow – it’ll be great to meet people as angry as I am!


    Comment by Lucy — April 27, 2006 @ 3:47 pm |Reply

  3. Oh yes. There’s nothing quite like a bit of radfem action to help you feel a bit less hopeless. See you there!

    Comment by witchy-woo — April 27, 2006 @ 9:21 pm |Reply

  4. See you tomorrow!

    Comment by Lucy — April 27, 2006 @ 9:26 pm |Reply

  5. Hi Lucy,

    What you describe is exactly how I feel a lot of the time and it is very depressing indeed. The bestest thing ever is getting to meet fellow feminist. It’s one of those ugly duckling type experiences, if you know what I mean.


    Comment by feministfirst — May 2, 2006 @ 8:27 pm |Reply

  6. Hi B,

    Yeah, it’s so great meeting people who know how you feel and don’t think you’re weird/ overreacting etc. The demo on Fri was fantastic – I’ll blog about it shortly!

    Comment by Lucy — May 2, 2006 @ 9:20 pm |Reply

  7. I also haven’t had any personal experience or rape/abuse/violence. Although I was nearly sexually coerced by a ‘holiday romance’ when I was 11. Luckily I got away because of my common sense and ability to see that I shouldn’t do anything that I don’t want to. I also had a horrible experience when I was minding my own business – a boy came up to me and pinched my breast. And this must have been when I was about 15 or something.

    But I’ve read so many blogs and statistics about rape and violence and abuse and it makes me so angry. Its horrible that women have to go thru this. I hope the protest was fun! πŸ™‚ We feminists must not get discouraged πŸ™‚

    Comment by Liz — May 14, 2006 @ 6:38 pm |Reply

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