I agree with everything the Laura feminist up there says, fuck everyone else’s rules! You’re not a sheep, you’re an individual, and what makes you happiest is the right feminism for you.

Lots of love,
an Andrea feminist.

Laura – that’s really good advice which I should try harder to follow! I’ve always taken things too personally – I really need to have the courage of my own convictions and not worry so much about fitting into particular groups.

I’m planning to come to RTN – maybe see you there! x

You know what? Screw everyone else! If you want to blog, for whatever reason, just write what you want to write, be who you want to be and don’t give a crap about what other people think. You are a fantastic person and your opinions are no less pertinent, interesting or important than anyone else’s, just as your feminist views are no less pertinent, interesting or important than anyone else’s. I’m a Laura feminist and I say and do what I want – so what if someone thinks I’m colluding with the patriarchy and am less of a feminist than them because I have a relationship with a man, because I like to fuck men? I know that I am not and that’s what matters. I felt exactly as you described not long ago – I loved feeling like I belonged in the radfem/antiporn community – but I came to realise that even if we do all hate porn, we are still v different people with v different views on certain things, and that’s OK because I don’t need other people to verify what I believe.

Sorry for the personal rant, but I guess what I’m saying is: be a Lucy feminist. Be yourself and screw everyone else. You will feel so much better!

Hope to see you at RTN,

Laura xx